A thought on submission and prayer

If I still have any readers I thought I'd throw this one out for feedback/thoughts...

What does the submission of a wife to her husband taught by Ephesians 5 look like?

Prayer as we find it in the Bible is where I most often go to think about what it means to be human. And isn't Ephesians 5 just encouraging the wife to be truly human in her relationship to her husband? So how about prayer for a perfect illustration of submission in marriage?

• Active
• Specific requests
• Arguing/wrestling/resisting/pleading
• Holding to promises
• Respectful
• Ready to say 'thy will be done' because I trust you, but not before a fight!

I love PT Forsyth on prayer:

We say too soon, “Thy will be done”; and too ready acceptance of a situation as His will often means feebleness or sloth. It may be His will that we surmount His will. It may be His higher will that we resist His lower. Prayer is an act of will much more than of sentiment, and its triumph is more than acquiescence. Let us submit when we must, but let us keep the submission in reserve rather than in action, as a ground tone rather than the sole effort. Prayer with us has largely ceased to be wrestling. But is that not the dominant scriptural idea? It is not the sole idea, but is it not the dominant? [...]

I would refer also not only to the parable of the unjust judge, but to the incident of the Syrophenician woman, where her wit, faith, and importunity together did actually change our Lord’s intention and break His custom. Then there is Paul beseeching the Lord thrice for a boon; and urging us to be instant, insistent, continual in prayer. We have Jacob wrestling. We have Abraham pleading, yea, haggling, with God for Sodom. We have Moses interceding for Israel and asking God to blot his name out of the book of life, if that were needful to save Israel. We have Job facing God, withstanding Him, almost bearding Him, and extracting revelation. And we have Christ’s own struggle with the Father in Gethsemane.

[NB where Forsyth uses the word 'submit' I take it that he means something different to what Paul does in Ephesians 5. Elsewhere in the chapter Forsyth explicitly equates it with 'resignation' and 'quietism', thoughts which would not have crossed Paul's mind.]